They met in New York City and after each had their first child, they quickly realized that “this motherhood thing” was harder than they ever would have imagined, and wondered why no one else they knew was talking about it honestly.
They became each others’ confidantes. In their friendship, there was no judgment, ever, for calling at 10 p.m. crying and asking for advice.
They began a quest to diagnose the underlying confusion about why mom’s weren’t speaking up about their struggles—and why moms are so guilt-ridden about having questions about mommyhood. The friends took their mission to the streets, and began conducting in-depth interviews with more than 100 moms across the country. Across the board, all roads led back to the same theme: insane expectations.
The mommy duo’s findings ended up becoming their first co-authored book, called “I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids”. In their blog, they wrote, “We now feel we have the tools and perspective to be happier moms. We’ve given ourselves permission to not feel guilty when things aren’t perfect. And we’ve redefined what motherhood is for each of us in a way that we can thrive and better enjoy the journey.”
Check out Amazon to purchase the book or request it from the library the next time you take the kids!